How To Deal With Being Overdressed – Dressing
Sharp For The Occasion – Men’s Style Tips Video Hi! I’m Antonio Centeno, the founder of Real
Men Real Style. Today, I’ve got a reader’s question. He’s asking me, “I often go to events
and I’m overdressed. Can you help me understand how to dress for the occasion?” If you haven’t already, please subscribe to
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Antonio! I have a problem making good combinations for particular occasions. Sometimes I get
overdressed or underdressed for an event. Right now, I’m having a problem making the
best combination for my graduation ceremony, which is coming up in a few weeks. I’ve got
a charcoal grey suit and I was wanting to wear a black tie with a white shirt, but sometimes
it looks like a party wear dress and not a graduation dress. What should I do? I need
help. Sincerely, Natesh.” All right, Natesh, my advice to you is — and
one thing about graduations is don’t mistake — graduations are not about you as the graduate.
Oftentimes, we think it’s about us. It’s actually about your family and everybody, your teachers,
everybody that supported and has invested in you as a young person to make the jump.
And so, really you’re not dressing for yourself. You are dressing for your family. We used to laugh about this, but I remember
it was a 6th Grade or a 7th Grade graduation and some of the kids would go across. The
families would go nuts and I’m just laughing in the back just thinking, “Man, this must
be the first one for this family.” But seriously guys, now that I have children, I realize
how much work and effort it is raising kids. They don’t notice it. For them, it’s, “Yeah,
whatever,” but I think of all the graduation events that I was very lucky to be able to
make and how proud my mom was that I was able to go across that stage and get my bachelor,
my masters, and other places I’ve graduated from. Again, remember, you are dressing — so there’s
nothing wrong with what you said wearing a charcoal grey suit. I don’t care where you’re
at in the world. This is going to look good, but there are four things you should be paying
attention to and can help you feel more at ease so that you don’t feel overdressed or
underdressed at any occasion. Number one, you should ask. Simply ask, “Is
there a dress code?” That is the easiest way. I wish more events would make this so you
don’t even have to think about it. They should have a dress code. If they don’t, then you
need to, number two, research. Find out what people wore last year and the year before.
You can look at photos and quickly see how people dressed. Just ask people around if
there is a dress code. What are they going to be wearing? That way, you get a good feel. Number three, dress in something that can
be flexible, so perhaps instead of wearing a suit, if you find that most people are going
to be just wearing a shirt and a pair of nice slacks, perhaps you can just don a sports
jacket and have a tie handy. That way, if you notice a number of people are actually
wearing suits, you can simply put on your blazer jacket, wear a tie with it, pocket
square, you’ll look and be just fine even though other people are a little bit more
dressed up than you. The other part is being overdressed oftentimes
is a state of mind. I am always overdressed not just because I’m a custom clothier, but
because I live in rural Wisconsin. And unless I’m wearing Carhartt’s and a t-shirt and work
boots, I am overdressed. So when I simply walk out of my house wearing a dress shirt
with a pair of dark, raw denim with western boots and a nice belt, I am overdressed. I
roll up my sleeves; it doesn’t help. I’m going to be overdressed. Think about it. It is more of a state of mind.
Be comfortable. Be comfortable around others and people are going to forget about the clothing,
but also remember this particular event, this graduation, you want to dress nicer than normal
because there are going to be a lot of pictures and a lot of happy people just excited to
see you make this jump. That’s my advice. Take it for what it’s worth.
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