I am a mum to four beautiful girls And one of them, Naomi, was diagnosed with cancer in April 2009. She’s just over five years now in remission and doing absolutely fantastic. When you’re that young, you know, I didn’t have a notion what was happening. I was in and out of school going to hospital appointments left right and centre. I was just a sick kid. I had no idea I had cancer. I was very isolated. It was just me and my mum. There was no getting away from it. It was just constantly on your mind, you couldn’t switch off. You’re paranoid about Naomi meeting somebody that was sick or somebody bringing something to the house. And Angela came out and spoke to us about the Cancer Fund for Children and what they do to support families like us. I was able to ask a lot more questions and feel a lot more comfortable. They were my best friends. I was seeing the excitement in her eyes. I was seeing the glint in her eyes. It was unbelievable the difference that it made. It wasn’t like I was so isolated anymore. The Cancer Fund for Children has definitely boosted my confidence and my self esteem. I don’t think I’d be the person I am today without them. As a family it’s made us a lot stronger. We appreciate each other more. Looking at her now and how confident she is and how passionate she is about life and, there’s a future in front of her. It’s one of those things that no one tells you about when you retire. You’re fixed into a time zone when you’re working. There’s none when you retire. The first couple of months seem like an extended holiday. But afterwards you start to find that you need structure. So when you come down in here, you find guys who are exactly the same as you are. They help you. You help them. And that’s the thing you miss from work. Genuine guys come in here and after a two or three day course you could be trained on lathes. Or cross cut saws or planers or stuff like that and you’re properly trained. There are other projects up the stairs like copperwork and calligraphy. And it’s all what you’re interested in. I’ve got grandkids who will say to me ‘Grandad make us a pen.’ And then they’ll take it to school and hopefully they’ll tell their mates ‘My grandad made that.’ Some of the guys in here, this is their only contact. And someone patting you on the back and asking you how you’re doing can lift you quite a bit. There’s nothing better than human contact. You learn so many aspects about how people deal with retirement. You can’t emphasize the importance of it. My Davey was just the love of my life. We met when I was 18. He was 23. We were married 44 years. We had four children and nine grandchildren. We went to Spain for Davey’s birthday. He made the tea and he said, there you go dumpling, there’s your tea. I said ach, I love you wee darling. It’s so funny the way I remember everything about it. And he said, I love you, and he shrugged his shoulders. He said, we just love each other. Then he fell back and he was gone. I went to all these things trying to find something. And I kept thinking that, if I do this I’ll fix it and Davey will come back. You know, your mind doesn’t work right. And I was thinking Davey will come back and things will be sorted out. But, unfortunately it didn’t work. But then I went to Cruse, and slowly but surely it started to help. Everybody that was there was in the same position that I was in. They’d all lost husbands and wives and.. They knew exactly how I was feeling and they knew how I felt going in. If I was down I could lift the phone and ring Marie or Lilian or Maureen, you know. And just say I’m sort of down today and how are you? And before you know it it, you’re laughing. When you’re in that place and you’ve just lost someone.. it’s the most terrible, terrible place to be. The friendship groups gave me back a life. My family can say ‘Mummy it’s great now,’ because they don’t worry about me so much. You know, now I can go on. I’ll never forget Davey. I’ll never get over him. But I can go on every day thinking some day I’m going to meet him again.